How much do you weigh?

**Please see the You Tube video at the bottom before reading my words**

 How much do you weigh?

Size 14 model Denise Bidot 

To be honest, we, as young girls, need the help of men (and women) when it comes to that, let me explain…

The models who carry such figure are a small percentage of the general population. Young girls (and boys too) see how they are regarded by others, seen as beautiful and charismatic. But, are they? What if people in general were to comment on the clothing rather than the model? They are advertising clothing not diets, how did the two ever got mixed up? Women should have curves and not look like a bloody pole, same goes for men!

I have struggled all my life with my weight, not to lose it but to gain it! I for the first time have lost that thigh gap everyone talks about, and I could not have been happier. I mean think about it, a grown women shopping in the kid section of a store for HER own clothes! You have to keep in mind here that I am 172 cm (5’8)! I was excited whenever I gain a kilo strutting around as if I owned the world. My average weight was around 47kg (105lbs) and I ate like a horse (still do btw!) I would on top of having four meals a day, be drinking those proteins shakes, but nope nothing. My bloodwork was perfect, same with my heart. The doctors were baffled but all agreed that if I am healthy than I am the way I should be especially since I have small bones! Of course, I also have a high metabolism and stress does affect my weight lost… Anyway, now I have reached and maintained for the first time a healthy 57kg (125.6lbs) Yay me!
I feel for the first time like a woman why? Because I have, curves like a woman should, for the first time (except during my pregnancy 18 years ago) I feel like a woman.

I tell you all this things to demonstrate that the weight struggle goes both ways, but sadly, not everyone knows this. I see young girls and boys, and women and men going on diets to lose a few kilos/pounds for whatever reason. Why do you do that? I remember telling my mother years ago, she was a plump woman btw, eat right, be active (according to her health and limits) and indulge occasionally and you will be how you were meant to be. How easy it is for a person my size to say, but remember how I too fight with my weight!

Coming back to the earlier point I wanted to make, I firmly believe that the obsessive fascination with today’s models that kids and teens have, is due to our behaviour as adults when seeing them (models) comment on what they are doing which is the clothing. I look at some of today’s models and wonder how the hell are they able to walk on those legs, and then I read and see people starving themselves trying to have those “chicken legs”, to me that is crazy. However, anorexia, bulimia etc. is a disorder that needs to be attended asap. Discouraging the earlier said idolizing of sickling appearances is necessary.

These eating disorders have been around; it is nothing new and with social Medias and random blogs easily accessible there are no excuses to ignore the signs, why am I saying this? Because in this video that I am sharing here I cannot understand for the life of me how a mother could be so oblivious to her daughter’s growing illness that started at the age of twelve only to collapse at the age of seventeen. Can you not see your child slowly wasting away over the course of five years?
There are many things I would like to say to this woman, but I will limit myself to simply say: “Are you really that fucking blind, woman?”

As for this beautiful young girl in the video, I am impressed that she has come that far and became a source of inspiration, hope and help for others struggling with this illness.

In addition, just remember you are beautiful just the way you are and let no one tell you otherwise.

Some informative link:

https://www.rehabs.com/explore/womens-body-image-and-bmi/

https://www.ssc.wisc.edu/~jpiliavi/357/body-image.htm

https://www.foxnews.com/entertainment/2012/01/11/new-magazine-editorial-highlights-shocking-differences-between-plus-size-and/

Help for eating disorders

https://www.helpguide.org/home-pages/eating-disorders.htm

https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/find-help-support